Keeping Families Connected

Our studies show that students who live and work on campus (less than 20 hours per week) and get involved in campus clubs and organizations have a significant advantage. Connecting with the university community and finding balance is key to academic success. Remember, a 15-hour course load requires about 45 hours of class and study time each week. As family members, your role in guiding, advising, and encouraging your student is crucial to their success.

College expectations are significantly higher than in high school. Professors expect students to be fully prepared for class by thoroughly reviewing all assigned materials. The general rule is two hours of preparation for every hour in class—college is a full-time commitment. As someone with valuable life experience, whether through college, parenting, or a career, you can help your student understand the importance of diligence and preparation.

Encourage your student to take the lead in communicating with university faculty and staff, fostering independence and responsibility in their academic relationships. They should know which department to contact if an issue arises and feel confident asking for help. While it’s natural to want to step in, empowering your student to handle their own challenges will build their self-reliance. Show your confidence in their ability to manage their own affairs, but also remind them that seeking help when needed is a sign of strength.

Maintaining an active relationship with your student is key to supporting their college journey. Whether you’re across the country or just across town, it’s helpful to establish how and when you’ll stay in touch. Discuss options like email, phone calls, or letters, and agree on a frequency that works for both of you.

While visiting campus is a great way to stay connected, avoid surprise visits. Let your student guide you on the best times to visit, ensuring it doesn’t interfere with their academic schedule. Planning your visit around campus events like the international festival, a basketball game, or a theatre performance can make the experience even more special.

Care packages are always a hit! Whether you send a favorite snack or a few essentials from home, your thoughtfulness will be appreciated. Even simple items like soap, a new toothbrush, or a couple of snacks can make your student’s day.

If your student is used to having their own bedroom at home, sharing a space with a roommate can be a new experience. Help them understand the importance of respecting their roommate’s personal space, property, and unique differences. Encourage effective communication and the ability to set ground rules together. Knowing how to address issues and seek help if needed will be key to building a positive living environment.

For many new college students, managing day-to-day expenses is a new responsibility. Once on campus, they’ll need money for essentials like notebooks, snacks, personal items, and recreation. UNC Charlotte offers convenient access to several bank ATMs on campus, so choosing a bank that’s accessible for both students and family members is a good idea.

College is the perfect time for students to gain financial independence. Encourage your student to practice working within a budget, balancing a checkbook, and paying their own bills. They can also take advantage of Niner Finances—a valuable resource on campus that offers guidance on essential financial skills.

Before your student arrives on campus, review their health history together and provide them with all necessary health insurance information. Encourage your student to start making their own health appointments in the time leading up to college. Developing a sense of personal responsibility and ownership over their health needs will empower them to manage their well-being confidently.